Enable the prototype packet re-order and optimization settings on the launcher
Run the game in windowed mode (fullscreen unfocused window has issues through loading screens)
Delete the sizzle.bik file to remove the EA 'movie' at game start
I have no problems running a fleet of 6 all day long because of the first two, the third is nice for logging in quickly if I do cause a problem by forcing the windows to minimize (the game doesnt windows do not like being manipulated/locked in place, so if you minimize them, you cant get em back = relog)